There’s an anxious couple awaiting your RSVP

Dear Annie: You get lots of questions about weddings after the fact. Here’s one that’s before the problem happens so you can advise us. We’re getting married in June. We sent out about 100 invitations, each with a note requesting a reply by June 1. So far, we’ve gotten only a handful of responses. As I’m writing to you, there’s still plenty of time, but what do we do come mid-June with people who haven’t responded one way or the other? Is it tactful to contact people, maybe pretending that we think their invitations got lost in the mail? If we do contact people, should we call or write a letter or email or what? Obviously, the caterer needs to know the number of people, and we need to decide on the seating arrangements. — Soon-to-Be Wed

Dear Soon-to-Be Wed: Congratulations on your nearing nuptials! It’s customary to start going down the guest list and calling anyone whose response you still haven’t received two days after the deadline. (So if there’s anyone you haven’t heard from by now, it’s time to get dialing.) Take note of guests’ meal preferences so you can get that information to the caterer ASAP, though the guests should still mail back their replies, too.

And let this be a reminder to anyone reading this who’s got an RSVP card gathering dust on the fridge. An anxious couple is awaiting your reply.