Parents day is this weekend

“At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.”– Jane Dee Hull

July 28th of this year has been established as Parent’s Day where we recognize those who have one of the most important jobs there is! This is not an exaggerated statement those who know me will acknowledge the fact whenever I say anything that uplifts the roll of parents; I mean every word of it. I happen to believe being a good parent is, indeed, a job of great significance; especially in today’s world where good parenting seems to be on the decline. Why would I say, it’s on the decline? It’s because I know what it’s like today. Likewise, I can see what has worked and what has not worked.

Now I’m not saying years ago parenting was all good. Some was and some was not. But in those days, I think most parents tried to set reasonable guidelines for their children and did their best to teach them the difference between right and wrong.

My reason for writing is to share my thought about parenting; how it was years ago compared to how it is now. There is a big difference; some better and some worse. I would like to briefly point out the differences of the two and suggest the best thing we can do for our society is to get back to old style parenting with some modifications.

One of the problems in parenting today is lack of discipline. There is a reason. Back then some of the discipline in schools and at home was much too harsh. We were told we were wrong and it should be corrected. So what did we do? Over the years we did correct our mistakes but unfortunately we over corrected. This resulted in the fact these days we have curtailed our use of discipline. Consequently, it now has gotten to the point where in too many cases kids and not parents rule the household. Some parents are afraid to discipline their children fearing their children may dislike them. Quite the contrary; with proper discipline the child will have more respect for them. And in our schools some of the teachers are reluctant to discipline fearing the flack they will receive from parents.

How about spanking our kids? There has always been a lot of controversial discussion about spanking as to whether or not it is necessary or harmful. Personally, speaking, I think there is nothing wrong with mild spanking administered with love and no anger shown. Yes, I believe we can still spank our child and do it with love. But again, keep in mind in everything you do, nothing replaces common sense.

Also, keep in mind in addition to food, clothing and shelter there are some other things our children need and that is love. It’s up to us parents to let them know we love them. How do we do that? Well, I would suggest a big hug and tell them you love them. A hug? Yes, that’s right, men. Now if you think this sort of stuff should come from women and not men, I would say they need it from their father as much as their mother.

We need to spend good quality time with them. If you don’t have the time to spend with them? Then someone else who is not good for them may find the time. Think about it.

And when you’re with them, give them your attention. If they’re telling you about what they did, pay attention and show some interest. What may not be interesting to you could well be of the utmost interest to them.

One other thing from how parenting was handled years ago. We need to set good guidelines for them. As others will, it’s not necessary they can figure out the guidelines for themselves. If you believe that, I would ask you to take a look around at what’s going on in our world. It’s easy to see many of them have not yet figured it out.

They need a good role model – someone to look up to. I could go on and on. But I won’t. So, these are some of the ways parenting was handled back then. The way I see it is, the sooner we get back to this the better off we will be.

Frank SanGregory