My struggles with drugs

“For any relationship to be successful there needs to be loving communication, appreciation, and understanding” — Miranda Kerr

One of the biggest problems of today’s society is drug addiction. Now, that is not the most enlightening statement, isit? Actually, it’s more of an understatement because as bad as it is, it’s getting worse. And it doesn’t always start with the illegal drugs such as opium, heroin and such, but on drugs you can et legally with a doctor’s prescription. Unfortunately, it does not always stop there because from there one often goes on to illegal drugs; any of which can do much damage to you – physically and psychologically. At this point, I would like to clear up some misunderstanding about those who have become addicted. Many of them are portrayed as selfish low-life individuals with no willpower and are a burden to society. The truth is most of them are not; quite the contrary, some are outstanding and up-right individuals.

Before I go on, and pass on to you the information I have about drugs, I should clarify something so you know what I will be saying is not something I just made up. Rather it is information I have gathered from research I’ve done. And, as I have mentioned efore, it comes from my experience and struggles have had with drugs. Yes, I was once addicted to Vicodin and was hooked on it for several years. I have always liked to consider myself as a mature adult man and surely knowing better than to get hooked on drugs. So I thought, but low and behold in a little while those drugs were the boss of that “mature young man” from about age 70 and several years thereafter. Yep! And, I knew it.

Prior to my addiction if I would have been having a conversation with anyone about drugs and they would have said to me something like, “Well, you never know, but it’s possible you could become addicted sometimes to drugs,” I would have responded, “What? You’ve got to be out of your mind. I’m married, we have four kids and I know better.” Yes-but it still happened. This leaves a question. Why does it become a problem for some but not for others? There is no definate answer but some say it could be genetic, your home life, such as your relationship with your parents, environmental factors or other reasons. Actually, it’s hard to pinpoint the exact reason for any individual.

So why am I revealing this about myself?It’s because everyone should know that it can happen to anyone. So what do we do about it or, is there anything we can do to help the situation? If you don’t mind, I would like to give a little advice. I’ve been walking around on this earth for 88 years observing what’s going on and I have gone through the struggles of drug addiction. Does that mean I have all the answers? No. it simply means could have some good suggestions. Suggestions from someone who has gone through the struggle.

My first suggestion is, as I have stated ablove, we should not consider those who are battling with drugs as low-life individuals. I’m sure you can carry on a conversation more uplifting. trying to put them down simply will not work, as everyone responds better to anything uplifting. Keep in mind the old adage, “If you want honey, don’t kick over the beehive”.

If for any reason if you are on any kind of a medication that for some reason you feel may become addictive and you start to feel the slightest inclination that you might become addicted to it, just stop taking it as soon as you can. If you think it’s too difficult to stop using it, the longer you wait the more difficult it will become.

Are there many adolescents and teenagers who like to experiment with drugs? Well that’s a little bit like asking, “Do bears like honey?”. It’s sad to say that we have many in that age category who are addicted with some very badly addicted. What can we as parents do to help? But as far as I know, there is no definitive answer; just some suggestions that would be worth trying.

It’s important children have a good relationship with their parents and, if you don’t have one, then you have some work to do. How do you do it? I will list a few questions parents should meditate:

Have you ever hugged your children and told him/her you love them? Please note, I’m not just talking to the mothers, I’m talking to the fathers too. I’ve worked around men for many years and I know how many of them feel. If some of you feel this is a suggestion for the mothers, not for fathers. If you feel that way, I’ve got to tell you, your kids need to get it from both of you.

Do you ever sit down and have a good conversation with your kids? I don’t mean a lecture-just a good conversation to make your kids feel comfortable with you? As someone once said, “Our children need this kind of relationship, it means more to them than you realize.

So, bottom line is communicate with your children- get to know them and let them know they are an important part of the family and they mean the world to you. Keep in mind the old adage, “If you want honey, then don’t kick over the beehive.”

I will close by saying, if you are struggling to overcome, I hope this helps. If you know someone struggling to overcome, I hope you are able to help them.

Frank SanGregory