Answer to many problems lies within yourself

As most of my friends know, I have spent the past four months of my life in and out of the hospital and am now a resident at Autumnwood nursing home. The total number of days in the hospital has given me enough time think about life; time to separate the important from the unimportant and time to evaluate myself to see how I fit into all of this.

I would like to share with you what I have come up with in my thinking. Actually, it’s nothing new that I came up with, it simply confirmed what I have always believed and yet caused me to feel more strongly in my belief. So, what is it that I feel is so important? Simply stated … well, actually it’s not so “simply” stated, because I find it difficult to find the correct words to use when I point out where the blame lies.

You see, the blame lies with all of us – you, me and probably most everyone. I’ll do my best to make this sound not so much like a sermon but more like good advice for all of us. Yes, I am well aware of the fact that too often, we take good advice as a sermon – all of us, myself included.

I believe the answer for many of our problems lies within our very own selves, and it’s my belief that many are caused because so many in our society have their priorities out of order. It was Oliver Wendell Holmes who said it right when he made the statement, “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” (Although there has been some disagreement as to the author because there are those who say the author was Ralph Waldo Emerson.)

Why is this so important? It’s because each of us has the power and ability to change it. Yes, we really do. It’s just simple – if we really want to do it. We start by asking ourselves some questions, such as: How is my relationship with my kids? How is my relationship with my spouse, with my friends? How is my relationship with the world?

Any of us will know what the correct answer should be. We then go about and try to live according to the answers we came up with. If we are not happy with the answers we get, we then ask if there is anything we can do to improve the situation. These are some of the questions we should ask ourselves.

Finally, we do our best to live our life according to the answers we receive.


Frank SanGregory,