It’s time to pause, reflect

As we are all very much aware, there has been a lot of violence in our cities these last few years. This is happening not only in the cities such as Chicago and Detroit, but in areas close to us – in our own back yard, so to speak.

Some were killings for no apparent reason. We cannot deny this fact – its happening. It is being discussed on the cable networks, and it should be. They have experts from all fields giving various reasons as to why this is happening. Some of the reasons are certainly valid while others, in my opinion, are not.

I feel most are not focusing on what the biggest problem is, and that is the deterioration of the family unit. I am not saying they never discuss what the major problem is; occasionally, they do. What I am saying is that there is far too much discussion on other areas and not enough on the major problem, which is the destruction of the family unit.

But, I’m not an expert; I’m just an old-fashioned conservative. So that’s what you would expect me to say. I ask you to bear in mind that in my day, the only source of news was the newspaper, the radio and the lady who lived next door to us – and not necessarily in that order.

But let me share with you what some of the experts have to say about it: Dr. Michael Carlie of Missouri State University said this:” Gangs form as a substitute for having no family or for having a dysfunctional family which failed to provide unconditional love, positive adult role models and proper discipline.”

And this, from Heritage Foundation. Patrick F. Fagan, Ph.D., has a publication titled: The Real Root Causes of Violent Crime: The Breakdown of Marriage, Family, and Community.

In his introduction, he says, “Policymakers at last are coming to recognize the connection between the breakdown of American families and various social problems.” He goes on to say, “Over the past 30 years, the rise in violent crime parallels the rise in families abandoned by fathers.”

Think about it. The number of fathers who simply abandon their children is staggering! And yet, does the media spend much time talking about this – the real problem? No – they would rather talk about guns. To make myself clear, I have no problem with some sort of limited gun control; and I have no problem with the media talking about gun control. But until we focus more on the root of the problem, we are just spinning our wheels.

I also happen to believe there are those who are trying to destroy our concept of the family unit as it should be. And what are they trying to do? Well, I believe they are trying to indoctrinate us with a different concept of just what the family unit really is all about. One of the ways they are doing it is through the media.

Now, it seems pretty obvious. At least in my mind, it does. First, take a look at what they offer as far as entertainment is concerned. Have you noticed the message that the situation “comedies” are giving us. Then there is our cable evening “news.” Much of it is not really news, as one would expect. Rather, it’s the commentator’s opinion about what is going on in the world.

Some of that which they are discussing on the evening news would never have been talked about just a few years ago. One of the subjects being discussed now is marriage and their attempt to define just what a marriage really is. They are then telling us that the majority of people are (like President Barack Obama) evolving on their thinking about marriage. And why are people suddenly “evolving”? Why are those, and many of them, suddenly accepting things that they would never have accepted just a few years ago?

Well consider what was said by Benjamin Disraeli: “Men are determined in their beliefs by what is in fashion. There is some strange sense of safety in the ‘majority opinion.'” Think about it. Yes, it’s been a long time ago, but it’s still true today. You don’t believe that? Then take a look at the fashion industry. Whatever they say is the “in thing”, we accept with no question. It doesn’t matter how it looks or how it’s worn. It can be extra large, too small, faded, tattered and shredded. It can be worn too high, too low, extra low, full of holes in the strangest places. It can be put on backwards, sideways or cockeyed. It simply does not matter how it looks. If it’s the in thing, that makes it cool and that’s what we see walking down the street. As Walter Cronkite would have said it, “And that’s the way it is.”

Yes, there does seem to be some strange sense of safety in the majority opinion. That is part of the problem; we have lost the ability to think for ourselves. Instead, we tune in to see what the latest polls are telling us.

Perhaps we should consider what Mark Twain once said, “When you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” Yes, I think the time has come that we should all forget what the party label we have attached to ourselves tells us what we must believe. We should simply forget what the majority of people think- never mind what the latest polls are saying. But it’s time we should all think for ourselves. It’s time to pause and reflect.


Frank SanGregory